Thursday, January 23, 2020

Life Together...

One of the emails i like to read daily comes from Outreach Magazine, and it's a summary of daily blogs that are useful to pastors and church leaders.  Today's included a blog by Dave Ferguson titled, "Life Together As a Church."  I found it very useful, and even convicting, so i wanted to share it here.  It applies specifically to pastors, but i think it will be useful...

I know too many church leaders, particularly pastors (in both big churches and small) who are leading a church but are not really a part of the church. They are the up front presence behind the pulpit or on the stage, but when it comes to actually doing life with people in the pews, they are absent. They are not in a small group in the church. They have few friends within the church. These pastors are leading their churches, but are not really a part of their churches.
The isolation, seclusion and loneliness only mimic what is happening all across our Western world. Look at the numbers. Thirty-five percent of Americans report they are “chronically lonely.” Only 8% of Americans report having conversations with their neighbors in the last year. Another report found that 25% of Americans say they have “zero confidants.” Multiple studies have tied loneliness to heart disease, dementia, depression and anxiety. One study found that loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. After numerous studies, researcher George Gallup concluded, “Americans are among the loneliest people in the world.”
God is calling us to live differently. Both at the beginning of creation and at the beginning of the church, Scripture reminds that we are better together! As church leaders, we need to live in togetherness and lead in togetherness.
In a culture that encourages a very individualistic approach to life, the general sense of loneliness is exponentially heightened in the life of a church leader and his family. In his book, Pastors at Risk, Chuck Wickman talks about the impact of isolation and loneliness on the pastor and his family. He explains that pastors often feel a deep sense of isolation from others—an inability to connect in significant relationships that bring balance and health. This is due, at least in part, to the distance between pastor and parishioners that we often let define our role. Add to that the care-giving functions of pastoral ministry, and the pastor can be left depleted and unavailable emotionally. 
So, how to do we end up so lonely in a crowded church? Let me give you at least three reasons. 
1. Individualism.  The same thing that made us think we could plant a church often keeps us from being a part of that church. After the French sociologist Tocqueville traveled through America in 1831, he consequently identified “rugged individualism” as the defining American trait. Now almost 200 years later, that “rugged individualism” has contributed to our independence and unmatched entrepreneurship. But it has also created a quiet desperation of loneliness. To live in togetherness, you have to give up—not all, but some—of your autonomy. You have to come under the accountability of other people. To live in togetherness with a church, you have to commit, which means you sometimes miss out on other options. You can’t just do whatever you want, whenever you want, and still live in togetherness. 
2. Idealism.  A second reason I think we avoid living together with our churches is idealism. We get into the ministry with a beautiful vision for what the church could be and should be. It is the idealistic view that also causes some of us to shake our heads in despair and keep our distance. The reason that many of us don’t relationally commit to our churches is because of wildly unrealistic expectations. We keep expecting to find the picture-perfect small group, and it never comes. So, instead of going deep with anyone, we skim the service with everyone. Soon we have been in our churches for three, five or even 10 years or more and we have successfully grown a church, but never actually been a part of one.
3. Intimidation.  Perhaps the biggest reason so many pastors are not experiencing genuine community in their churches is because of intimidation. We’re straight-up scared of intimacy. I don’t just mean those of us who are introverts. Introversion and extroversion have nothing to do with how relational somebody is. Some of the most relational people I know are high introverts. And some of the most individualistic, lonely people I know are high extroverts. We’re scared to live together with our church, because we realize that if we really commit to a community, our real self will come out. And we’re scared of that kind of vulnerability! We know to really experience community and get the most out of it means letting people know our whole selves—the good, the bad and the ugly. Deep down, we think, If people get to know me, I don’t know if they’ll really like me; I don’t even like me. We are intimidated!
Here’s the truth: If we are serious about living as followers of Jesus, we can’t follow him alone. Every Tuesday night, I gather in a home with about a dozen other people who are also trying to follow after Jesus. Often we share a meal. We always study the Bible together. We conclude every evening praying for one another. We have gone through some of life’s greatest challenges: the loss of a child; divorce; death of a parent; financial hardships; the struggle of depression and anxiety and more. We have also grown together: We have learned to love; to be generous; to serve; to fight fair and how to hold doubt and faith at the same time. I love these people and they love me. Together we can get each other through anything—in this life and into the next. 
You need a group like that too. I don’t care what you call it—a missional community, small group or Sunday school class. Togetherness is not optional. Relationships are the catalyst for personal transformation. We are better together. 
Some of my family’s best friends in life have come through small groups. They have helped Sue and me get through some of the rough times in our marriage. They have helped us raise our kids. They have taught us how to manage our money. They have given me an example for how to follow Jesus. We are better together.
The Tuesday night small group I described is also the one I lead. Oftentimes, I will get pushback from church leaders on the idea of leading a small group in their church. They will shake their heads and say, “I can’t do everything!” or “I train others to do that.” I agree that you can’t do everything, and I believe you should engage in leadership training. However, I encourage church leaders to follow this axiom when determining where to use their leadership gifts in the church: lead at the smallest level and at the largest level of your leadership capacity. Read that again and let it sink in.
How do you lead at the smallest level and the largest level of your leadership capacity? If you are in a small- or medium-sized church; at the smallest level, you would lead a small group and apprentice a small group leader(s) and at the largest level also lead in training a leadership resident to plant another church. You would let your high-capacity volunteers, elders and staff do everything else in-between.
In my case, I am pastoring a larger church and also leading a church planting network. So, to lead at the smallest level means I lead a small group and apprentice a small group leader, and for me to lead at the largest level means I’m apprenticing future network leaders to start church planting networks across the country and around the world. The volunteer leaders, coaches, elders and staff do everything else in-between.
Following this leadership axiom—lead at the smallest level and the largest level of your leadership capacity—helps you do the following:
1. Modeling – You lead in creating togetherness in the exact way you are asking others to do it. By leading a small group, you are showing others how to do it and modeling leadership.
2. Storytelling – By leading a small group, you will have stories to tell that will reinforce a culture of togetherness.
3. Impact – By leading a small group and, for example, helping other leaders start churches, you are showing leaders they need to continually be expanding and growing their influence by reproducing at every level.
Living in togetherness is always a part of following Jesus. It wasn’t optional for him. It wasn’t optional for the first apostles. It wasn’t optional for the first Christians, and it’s not optional for us. This community and the unity of this community are absolutely essential for accomplishing Jesus’ mission.
What did you think?  I know this was written for pastors, but all of need to live life in the church.  Few are as plugged in as they could be.  So let me know your thoughts.  Let me know how you might get better plugged into your local church.

Wednesday, January 22, 2020

Growing in grace and knowledge...

"But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
To him be the glory both now and forevermore." 
- II Peter 3:18

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This is how Paul ends his second letter. Much of this letter is spent telling the believers to watch out  false leaders and false prophets. There are people that will come, and perhaps were even there then, that will try to lead believers astray.

One of the chief ways to prevent that from happening, from being led astray, is to be constantly growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus. When we know His voice, when we know His commands, and when we are intimately connected to His Spirit, we will know when someone tries to mislead us in issues of faith.

We need to be always looking for opportunities to grow in our faith, to understand our faith better, to know Jesus better and better. This is the most important step you can take in being able to identify false teachers.

No matter where we are in our spiritual journey, no matter how mature we are in our faith, the sinful world will always try to challenge our beliefs. There is always room for growth. If every day brings new opportunities to draw nearer to Christ, we will be prepared to stand firm in all circumstances.

So, if you don’t already, begin a reading program to spend a little time each day in reading the Scriptures. Set aside time everyday for prayer. And join others in a Bible Study. You would be surprised how much you learn by discussing Bible passages with others.

A couple of things I would like to see us start would help here.  The Alpha course is a great way to grow.  The course features short videos and discussions, and I’ll probably introduce it in a small group, and then see about offering during the summer to the full church.  The talks each week in the Alpha course can help us to see things in a little different light.  They can challenge us and help us as we grasp at the meaning of our faith. 

Also corporate prayer would help.  I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we might be able to bring back a Prayer Group, or a time when we could pray corporately, that would look very different from what we used to do, but that would bring us together for a time of prayer. 

Sometimes we need to step outside our comfort zone. That’s how we grow, and growth is what living a life of faith is all about. Seek growth, and you will find Jesus.

Friday, August 16, 2019

8 Characteristics of Believers Who Don’t Give Up in the Battle

Long title I know, but I didn't write it.  I came across this on the Christian News blog, this article written by Chuck Lawless.  I wanted to pass it along, because it's well worth the read...

Living for Christ is hard—sometimes so hard that we’re tempted to wonder if it’s worth the sacrifice. It is, of course, but difficulties sometimes cloud that truth. Based on my years of studying spiritual warfare, here are characteristics of believers who don’t give up in the battle:

  1. They’re solidly connected to a local church. That is, they don’t just attend a church; they participate in it. They’re involved in a small group, and they serve in some capacity. They’re living for something other than themselves.
  2. They have a devotional life, even if it’s not perfect. They might be struggling with consistency, but they’re working at it. They make time to read the Bible and pray.
  3. They have somebody to walk with them. They don’t fight the battle alone, because they have a Christian brother or sister who stands with them. They share their burdens and their struggles—which always lightens the load a bit.
  4. They choose to believe what the Bible says. Even when they may not “feel” like it’s true, they make the choice to trust Bible truths like “I will not leave you or forsake you” (Heb. 13:5) and “greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4).
  5. They rehearse God’s care in the past. It’s easy to forget yesterday’s blessings when today’s hard, but those who don’t give up fight hard to avoid that error. They continually remind themselves, “God has never let me down in the past. He won’t now, either.”
  6. They trust that when they are weak, God is their strength (2 Cor. 12:10). They may not like the battle, but they learn from the apostle Paul’s prior experience. Weakness doesn’t bother them, for they know God’s power is most evident when they are weakest.
  7. They understand the witness of faithfulness in the battle. They recognize that somebody’s always watching them—and that their witness is most potent when life is hard and their faith is stretched. Their faithfulness in the valley catches the attention of the watching world.
  8. They cry out to God. There’s no pretense in their praying. They sugarcoat none of their words, and they follow no formula in their prayers. They know God’s big enough to handle their questions and their pain. He is, you know…

Let us know how we might pray for you if you’re tempted to give up.

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Do Not Sin

“My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin.  But if anybody does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in our defense – Jesus Christ, the Righteous One.”
1 John 2:1
This passage was the New Testament reading in the daily lectionary for today.  And to set the context, in chapter 1, John was talking about walking in the light.  In verse 5 he reminds us that “God is light: in him there is no darkness at all.”  In verse 6 comes the statement, and this perfectly logical, if we claim to have fellowship with him, with God, but we walk in the darkness, then we lie, we’re not walking in fellowship with him.
Chapter 2 is a continuation of this theme.  And the message to us I think is pretty clear – we can’t continue in our sin, if we’re going to follow Jesus.  That’s why he wrote this letter, so the churches would take sin seriously.  That Christians will not sin.
Is that possible?  Is it possible to not sin?  Often I think that we convince ourselves that it isn’t possible, so we don’t even try.  I think that shows in two areas.  First, we have churches that don’t preach about sin anymore.  Forgiveness and repentance aren’t ever mentioned.  Why bother, sin can’t be helped, so why build tension.
But the other area is in Christians that don’t even try.  Everybody sins, what’s the big deal.  Besides, we know we’ll be forgiven, so we don’t even worry about it.  And I don’t honestly think that it is possible on this side.  But Jesus died for our sin.  Our sin is a big deal.  And the bible is clear about our need to try.  As much as it depends on us, we need to live an honorable life, and we need to avoid sin. 
So what is sin?  Basically, sin is disobedience to God.  It can be doing something that’s contrary to God’s law, or God’s Word, or just doing something you know is not what God would have you do.  According to John MacArthur, “Sin is any lack of conformity to the moral character of God or the law of God.  We sin by thinking evil, speaking evil, acting evil, or omitting good.”
The second part of that definition gives us a game plan.  How do we not sin?  If sin is thinking evil, speaking evil, acting evil, or omitting good, we can come up with a game plan to dramatically cut down on the sin in our lives.
What do you think about?  Is it evil?  Do you let you thoughts wander to things that aren’t good?  You’re not an evil person, but do sometimes allow your thoughts to wander?  Controlling your thoughts is essential to living a life free from sin.  Work on your thoughts.  As Paul wrote in Philippians 4:8, “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.”  In other words, think good thoughts, not bad thoughts.
Next was speaking evil.  What do you say?  What words do you use?  Do those words change when you’re upset?  Work on your words.  Don’ say things that tear others down, say only things that build others up.  Instead of criticizing, give constructive criticism.  Help others do better – that’s how we should use our words.  James 1:19 says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”  We’re slow to speak because we’re thinking about our words, and avoiding any kind of evil speak.
Next was acting evil.  We’ve talked about thinking evil, and speaking evil.  It should follow that we need to pay attention to what we do.  Do things that reflect Jesus.  Do things that honor God.  Don’t do things that cause others harm, or even cause you harm.  Romans 12:9 tells us, “hate what is evil, cling to what is good.”  It follows then that we should hate doing what is evil, and cling to doing what is good. 
Finally, omitting good.  Sometimes we can sin by omission.  By not doing what we know we should do.  If you see someone struggling, and you know you should do something to help them, but you don’t, you just watch them struggle – you are sinning.  Don’t omit the good you can be doing.
Remember we sin by thinking evil, speaking evil, acting evil, or omitting good.  And remember John’s admonition:  do not sin.

Sunday, April 7, 2019

Sermons from FBC - Jesus is the Crucified

Sermons from Waverly First Baptist.  This is the last of our series looking at Who is Jesus?  This week we see that Jesus is the Crucified, the Son of God who suffered and died on the cross.  And we'll see that we need to follow Jesus as our trustworthy savior who took our place.

Sunday, March 31, 2019

Sermons from FBC - Jesus is the Lamb of God

This weeks message is the 6th in the series titled Who is Jesus?  Today, we'll see that Jesus is the Lamb of God who paid for sin with his life and suffered silently when he was scorned. We see how we can die to sin and live for righteousness because of Jesus’s sacrifice.

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Suffering is good! (And I might be crazy)

“It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees.”
Psalm 119:71

Affliction is a tough thing.  We don’t like affliction.  We don’t want trouble.  We just want things to go nice and smoothly.  But we also know that suffering is a part of life.  A part that we don’t like, but a part that we can’t always avoid.  Sometimes things happen.  Sometimes we do things we shouldn’t have done, and it gets blown out of proportion.  Sometimes other people do things, oblivious to the effects on those around them.  And sometimes we get hurt, and suffering comes.

But there is often a purpose for our suffering.  We can often learn something when we stop and reflect about our experience.  In Psalm 119, the psalmist is singing praises for God’s law, and just before we come to the passage I quoted above, he shares a little about a time that he was afflicted.  He doesn’t give details about it, we don’t know what happened, but we get a glimpse in verse 69, “the arrogant have smeared me with lies.”  And we’ve all learned the hard way, the lies of people who don’t fully understand our situation can cause a lot of our suffering.

But the Psalmist seems to know why this happened.  Verse 65 says, “Before I was afflicted, I went astray.”  He seems to be giving us a cause and effect.  He was afflicted because he went astray.  He continued in verse 65, “But now I obey your word.”  In his affliction, he turned back to God.  And when it was over there were lessons that stood out for him.

The first we see in verse 68, “You are good, and what you do is good, teach me your decrees.”  He learned that God is good, and even when He allows suffering in our lives, He is still good.  And even our suffering can be good, because God often uses it to teach us His ways.

The second thing he learned we saw above (in verse 71).  “It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees.”  He may have gone astray, but when the struggles came, and he turned back to God, he saw that it was all worthwhile.  He was convicted of going astray, and returned to God’s Word, and in the end, he found that he had learned something about God through that hard time. 

Something else to consider when afflictions come.  Sometimes the suffering we feel doesn’t have anything to do with us.  Sometimes we get caught up in the suffering of others, and it not about us at all.  Sometimes we take things way to personally, that weren’t meant for us at all.  Perhaps in those times the lesson is about pride or arrogance, and they come as a reminder that it’s not all about us, that we’re really a lot smaller than we might appear.

So to wrap it up…  There are seasons when we all suffer.  Seasons that sometimes seem like they’ll never end – but they will.  Seasons that seem so senseless – but we can learn from them.  We can learn that God is always good, even when He allows bad things to come.  And we can learn that in turning back to God, it will all be worth it.  And we can spend some time reflecting on what happened, and what lesson God might have for us personally.

Life Together...

One of the emails i like to read daily comes from Outreach Magazine, and it's a summary of daily blogs that are useful to pastors and ch...